Reflecting back and aligning your achievements with the goals set out at the beginning of the year should be a great way of focusing on progression rather than failure. However, we’re all guilty of beating ourselves up over what we could have done better. This in hindsight is being counterproductive. It’s much more productive looking at the things which had a negative impact on your year and focusing on the lessons learned. This will ensure you are less likely to make those same choices again.
“Looking back on the year is not about beating yourself up and seeing what you need to do better,” says Lodro Rinzler, meditation expert and teacher at MNDFL in New York City. “It’s about rejoicing.” Even if you have plenty to rejoice about—a job, good friends, daily meals—it can be tough to know where to start. Or it can feel all too easy to dwell on disappointments. – https://greatist.com/live/reflect-on-your-year
“We tend to spend a lot of time and attention watering the weeds,” says Emily Fletcher, founder of Ziva Meditation. “And then we’re growing the weeds. So this is a moment to water the flowers and pay attention to those.”
Below are some effective ways on how to approach new year goals
In January it’s easy for us to set goals and bucket lists the length of our arms. Most of the time we are blind sighted by the novelty of new years that our goals hold no real value to us. For example, “I’ll go the gym every other night”. This is a good incentive but the intention behind it should be the real goal. Rather than going to the gym every other night how about aiming to live a healthier lifestyle? Going to the gym can be added extra – but you won’t limit yourself to this. If you’re not a gym lover chances are by February your gym membership will be redundant…as well as your goal.
Focus on the wider picture and ask yourself why do I want t do this? What do I want to achieve? Your goals are specific to you and don’t need to be an endless list. It’s about the quality rather than the quantity.
Split your goals into different areas of your life
If you do choose to set numerous goals try to do for different areas of your life. This is a way to create balance. You can have career goals, wellness goals, social goals etc – it’s completely your choice. For the most part we are multi faceted beings – however we do tend to neglect certain areas of our lives. Setting specific goals will stop you from putting the focus in one area.
According to statistics about 80% of people fail to stick to their New Year’s resolutions for longer than six weeks. You can minimise this from happening by evaluating your goals monthly or so. This will help you stay on track and make the end of year analysis less daunting.
The main approach to setting new year goals is to be clear on your intentions. This will shape everything you do and how you do it. Also remember goals do not need to be set in stone. We constantly change as do our circumstances, so if you feel your goals are no longer relevant don’t hold back on changing them. Make your year the best it can be without limitations.