When it comes to discipline many of us have our own personal principles, experiences, and expectations. For example, many parents associate discipline with creating boundaries between themselves and their kids. When such boundaries are crossed precautions are put into place and subsequently become a form of discipline.
With that as a baseline, we often assoicate discipline with a third party. As a result, many of us can oneglect the act of self discipline.
When I think of self discipline I think about creating boundaries within myself and my life. These boundaries contribute to happier experiences and living life in a more fulfilled way. It’s also an effective way of ensuring values and sense of self worth are not being compromised.
However, in order to actively incorporate self discipline into our lives, we must firstly clearly identify our own boundaries. This can be done clearly establishing our sense of values. There’s undeniable no doubt that this can be easier said than done.
As individuals we are all different and have gone through varied journeys in our lives. Some of us have a clear sense of who we are, what we believe in, and what we stand for. Whereas, some of us are still on a journey of finding ourselves and can still struggle with our own values.
In such instances it can simply become a case of only engaging in activities which bring positivity to our lives. For example, if we know what we want to achieve we need to be disciplined enough to not engage in actions which will deter those achievements.
Self Discipline Tips
These tips are great ways to establish the habbit of creating self-discipline in our everyday lives…
- What do you want to achieve
As mentioned above, this is the first hurdle of the race. Without sounding patronising – in order to achieve something, we firstly need to know what it is we want to achieve. For example, if you are working on a project and have a deadline you do not want to exceed; your achievement would be committing yourself to your project in order to see it through to the end.
- Get rid of distractions
Following on from tip number 1, in order to achieve you need to minimise distractions. In our article finding balance in 2018, we briefly spoke about switching off mobile devices whilst in work mode. This is just one of many ways – but a good start of narrowing your focus and being disciplined enough to focus on what needs to be done.
- Be committed
There’s very little point in embarking on a journey to achieve goals or tasks if you are not committed to put in the work along the way. Commitment and discipline fall hand in hand. Start small and make minor commitments before progressing. For example, want to be more productive with your time? Set small tasks daily and endeavour to complete them within a set time frame.
- Find motivation
One of the best ways of finding motivation can be by doing a life inventory. As daunting as this may sound, it is an effective way of realising what is working and what is not. Once you are able to see what is bringing in negative you can make a conscious effort to not participate in certain activities.
- Don’t feel bad about the past, look forward and move forward
Maintaining a positive mind frame continuously can prove to be tricky. There will be instances where you will experience success and failure. However in the event of failure it is important to identify what led to this and how it can be best avoided in the future. Falling into a pool of self pity and negative emotions and thought patterns will only slow down the journey to your ultimate goal.
6. Take care of yourself and do not become stressed
Have enough self discipline to know when to stop and when to start. In saying this I mean, make conscious efforts to take care of yourself by indulging in activities you enjoy. This links to finding the right balance between different aspects in your life.